John’s third epistle is a personal letter to his beloved brother Gaius. There is a reason why John is known as the apostle of love. His greeting of Gaius is a wonderful example of John’s true devotion to others. “Beloved, I pray that you may prosper in all things and be in health, just as your soul prospers … I have no greater joy than to hear that my children walk in truth” (2,4).
Further, a good portion of his letter is a commendation of the hospitality Gaius showed to other Christians, notably those who were traveling as ministers of the gospel of our Lord. John wrote, “We therefore ought to receive such, that we may become fellow workers for the truth” (8).
However, something must be noted about John’s life. Though he made every effort to be a loving man, and was successful in it, he didn’t please everyone. Just like his Lord, he was reviled by some for his faith. In this text Diotrephes served as an example. Another was his exile and mistreatment by the authorities both Jew and Roman.
The truth is, we can only control our own efforts to love and cherish others. We can’t ensure that our attempts will be returned in kind. This is an obvious truth, though it seems that some think if there is a conflict, both parties must always be at fault. God sees it differently. He doesn’t require us to get along with everyone. As Paul wrote, He requires, “Repay no one evil for evil. Have regard for good things in the sight of all men. If it is possible, as much as depends on you, live peaceably with all men. Beloved, do not avenge yourselves, but rather give place to wrath; for it is written, “Vengeance is Mine, I will repay,” says the Lord. Therefore, “If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him a drink; for in so doing you will heap coals of fire on his head.” Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good” (Romans 12:17-21).
Here the problem was solely Diotrephes. He was proud, and sought power. He was a prater (an idle talker, one who brings forth idle accusations and empty charges). His words were malicious (evil, wicked, bad, intended to injure). In fact, the word malicious is used in scripture to describe the character of Satan himself.
His influence in that congregation was apparently very strong. So much so that his will was accomplished even to the point of refusing to receive even the apostle himself, and excommunicating those who would not bow to his will.
We must examine ourselves! It is obvious that it is possible for even a Christian to become this evil.
