The title covers a portion of our men’s Sunday study where we discussed the book of Proverbs, covering the topic “Wisdom Regarding Speech.” I appreciate Justin leading our study, and the good material which was written by Mark Copeland. Our study of Proverbs has been very good.
The material emphasized how important it is for our speech to be positive. After warning about lying, deceitful flattery, gossip and cursing, the material covered the type of speech that should characterize us as Christians. While that may seem to be evident, the book of Proverbs has some gems for us to consider.
The three points made is that our speech should consist of 1) Good, 2) Timely, and 3) Controlled words. Here is a very concise treatment:
Our words must be good. “Pleasant words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the bones” (Proverbs 16:24). The book describes these types of words as characteristic of “the righteous” (Proverbs 10:11) and bring wisdom, value and feed many (Proverbs 10:19-21). They bring gladness to the anxious heart of man (Proverbs 12:25).
Our words must be timely. In Proverbs 15 the writer emphasizes, “And a word spoken in due season, how good it is!” (23). Timely words reveal both wisdom and discernment. Knowing what to say and when to say it is so important. “A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in settings of silver” (Proverbs 25:11). It is important to think before you speak! A great pearl of wisdom is found here, in Proverbs 15:28, “The heart of the righteous studies how to answer, but the mouth of the wicked pours forth evil.” It is not sufficient merely to count to ten before speaking. It is important that you study, thoughtfully considering the efficacy and righteousness of the words you share!
Our words must be controlled. This is a great challenge to us, especially in times of conflict or anger. Controlled words characterize the righteous. Not so with those who are wicked. “He who guards his mouth preserves his life, but he who opens wide his lips shall have destruction” (Proverbs 13:3). We are told “but a harsh word stirs up anger” and “the mouth of fools pours forth foolishness” (Proverbs 15:1-2). Controlling our tongues reveals true knowledge, understanding, and maturity. “In the multitude of words sin is not lacking, but he who restrains his lips is wise” (Proverbs 10:19, cf. James 3:2). May each of us take this wisdom to heart, and be careful to control our words as befitting the sanctified of God.
